Seduction and desireability for the busy modern woman

When you’ve come home from work, put dinner on the table, and gotten kids to bed, sex is the probably, and understandably, the last thing on your mind. Your partner may actually feel the same way! But making time for physical intimacy can give you and your partner time to reconnect, re-energize, and deepen your connection, helping you face life’s challenges together. Sometimes, a little seduction can be necessary to get you out of the rut and into the bedroom.

Send your partner a naughty text message, or email, even before the kids are in bed. Tell them what you’re looking forward to doing, and watch their head pop up in surprise and pleasure. Send them a link to an article about aphrodisiac foods — and then prepare something exciting as part of dinner.

Too many romantic movies can convince you that lovemaking has to take hours, and involve candles and wine and romantic music. If you have time for that now and then, that’s wonderful, but there’s something equally hot and exciting about knowing you only have twenty minutes before the kids come knocking, that can help add steam to seduction.

Sometimes couples get used to one way of pleasuring each other, and then, even though fireworks still fly, the entire encounter can seem rote and scripted. Make this part of your seduction, maybe in your sexy text, agree that you’re going to go at this differently, using hands and mouths to give each other pleasure.

It used to be that shopping for sex toys was an embarrassing experience; that world has very much changed, and it’s easy to find clean and friendly sex toy shops that you can visit in person, or online. The online shops tend to ship in plain brown packaging, so your neighbors won’t be making guesses at what’s going on in your bedroom. Shop with your partner, and use this as a great time to talk about a few of your fantasies.

Before you can take the first seductive steps with your partner, you need to feel good about yourself. This means something different for every woman. Maybe you need time to go for a run, do yoga, or attend a Zoomba class. Maybe you need to spend a little extra time on your hair and makeup. How about taking a shower when you get home from work, and smoothing on some luxuriant body lotion with a scent that you love. Whatever makes you calm, happy, and comfortable in your skin is going to make you infinitely more attractive to your partner, and make your seduction attempts that much more likely to succeed.

Sex is good for us, physically and emotionally. Take the time out of your busy day to practice your seduction techniques and reconnect with your partner, even if it’s only for twenty minutes. Both of you will be better for it.