Saving your relationship after a fling
Try talking away from home where you can apologize and help him to understand why you had a fling.
Build on becoming close once again and leave memories of your fling behind you. Crédito: Flickr - Emery Co Photo
Saving your relationship after having a fling isn’t easy. There is lots of hurt, anger, and pain to deal with. You might have had your reasons for being with someone else, but if you want to save your current relationship, you’ve got work to do.
The early days
Don’t expect too much straightaway. It’s not easy to forgive someone overnight, and your boyfriend or husband will be dealing with a range of emotions. He may not want to talk to you or may be so angry that any conversation ends up in a shouting match. Give it time.
Try talking away from the home, in a neutral space, where you can apologize but also help him to understand why you had a fling. If there were issues in your relationship, you need to deal with them now if you are to have any hope of rebuilding your connection.
Date nights
Restart date nights. Your other half may not be open to this at first but if you want your relationship to get back on track, you are going to have to reconnect. You need to remind yourselves, as a couple, of why you got together in the first place and what hopes and dreams you had for the future, and you need to rebuild and revise these so that your relationship can begin again.
Suggest easy nights out like going to see a movie, having a meal, or taking a walk in the park. Don’t go to places that are loaded with memories. Pick neutral activities that you can enjoy together. Try something new and it will help to build new memories of a fresh start to your relationship.
Physical contact
It may be hard for your boyfriend or husband to resume physical contact with you after you have had a fling. He may become obsessed with the other man and want to know the details. You need to reassure he that he is the man for you, that you are sorry for having a fling and that he is now the important person in your life.
Don’t try to seduce him. Let him make the first move when he is ready. Relationships can survive flings, but when someone’s trust in you has been damaged, it takes time to heal the hurt and reconnect. Take things easy in the early days and when you are ready restart your relationship with date nights. Build on becoming close once again and leave memories of your fling behind you.
