How to handle a nerdy son

Children are all different and rarely fit into the mold of what parents expect. So having a nerdy son may be a difficult idea to accept. Parents generally all strive for the same things for their boys, happiness and success. The common mistake that many parents make is thinking that their sons have to be athletic and popular to have those two things. In reality, a strong family foundation and a respectable attitude is what will help him achieve happiness and success.

Nerdy children will often feel more ostracized at home than at school. If parents are not supportive there will be feelings of failure felt by the child. These feelings are more severe because the disappointment is coming from family. Fathers tend to be especially harsh if they themselves are athletic and their son is not. It is hard for parents to accept a son they feel they do not understand. Yet with nerdy or socially awkward children, understanding from parents is crucial for the development of self-esteem.

The best way to cope with a child you do not understand is to let go of your expectations. Children will rarely live up to parental expectations anyways so it is better to let them go now. Try to embrace your son’s interests. If he loves to read, encourage his passion and discuss books with him. Help him explore new experiences and meet other children with similar hobbies. Finding other nerdy kids will help your son feel less alone. As a parent you will also get a chance to connect with other parents that are having similar issues with their child.

Consider the alternative, would you rather a nerdy child or a troubled child? Help your son embrace his differences and let him know that his academic pursuits will make him a successful adult. An intelligent child can be reasoned with and if you talk to him like an adult he may respond well. Let him know that some kids may not understand why he is different and will treat him badly but he can simply ignore them. Reassure him that he is loved and supported by his family.

Even if your child is nerdy that does not mean you have to give up on athletic pursuits altogether. Keeping a balance in life and encouraging him to stay active is important and will eventually help him socially too. Do not push for overly competitive sports or teams but allow your son to choose something active that he enjoys and ensure he commits to it.